This appliqué is sewed on the side of my gift from my baby sister. We are adults now, but I still see her as my baby sister as we are over a decade apart in age.
Ever since I could remember, I wanted a sibling. I was so desperate for a little person to follow me around and hold my lunch box. Funny it might seem, that was my reasoning to have a little brother or sister. I was so jealous of all my classmates with little siblings. I felt really lonely most of the time. This loneliness helped form my creativity. I had to imagine a playmate and made up games just to entertain myself.
Before the arrival of my baby sister, my mother a lot of time hanging out with me. She volunteered for almost all of my field trips, hauling big bags of freshly fried prawn chips to share with my friends. My mother would stay with me till the school bell rang in the morning. In order to play board games with her, I made sure I finished my homework as quick as possible. We were joined at the hips.
After the birth of my sister, I was prepared for to share the spotlight. Surprisingly, I felt like I was still part of the spotlight! Perhaps it was due to the fact that I was holding her most of the time. I knitted little socks for her first Christmas, and even crawled into the crib to keep her close. The crib was able to hold the weight of even 11 year old! More than often, I would lift her up to cuddle.
As we grew older, sadly, we grew apart. I was going through the tough teenage years and I needed privacy. Having a preschooler constantly bathing into my bedroom was not my ideal situation. Trying to work on projects and papers in university, I needed the use of the computer. But, she needed it too! So there was conflict over the computer. Finally, I decided to finish my work at my friend’s place.
Adult years have been tough for both of us. We are both empaths, but with completely opposite personalities. I am an extrovert and she is an introvert. Luckily, these past few years, having my two children around, helped us to find a common ground. We actually have a lot of common interest, it’s just that we are born in two different decades of time.