Perfect Sisters

This appliqué is sewed on the side of my gift from my baby sister. We are adults now, but I still see her as my baby sister as we are over a decade apart in age.

Ever since I could remember, I wanted a sibling. I was so desperate for a little person to follow me around and hold my lunch box. Funny it might seem, that was my reasoning to have a little brother or sister. I was so jealous of all my classmates with little siblings. I felt really lonely most of the time. This loneliness helped form my creativity. I had to imagine a playmate and made up games just to entertain myself.

Before the arrival of my baby sister, my mother a lot of time hanging out with me. She volunteered for almost all of my field trips, hauling big bags of freshly fried prawn chips to share with my friends. My mother would stay with me till the school bell rang in the morning. In order to play board games with her, I made sure I finished my homework as quick as possible. We were joined at the hips.

After the birth of my sister, I was prepared for to share the spotlight. Surprisingly, I felt like I was still part of the spotlight! Perhaps it was due to the fact that I was holding her most of the time. I knitted little socks for her first Christmas, and even crawled into the crib to keep her close. The crib was able to hold the weight of even 11 year old! More than often, I would lift her up to cuddle.

As we grew older, sadly, we grew apart. I was going through the tough teenage years and I needed privacy. Having a preschooler constantly bathing into my bedroom was not my ideal situation. Trying to work on projects and papers in university, I needed the use of the computer. But, she needed it too! So there was conflict over the computer. Finally, I decided to finish my work at my friend’s place.

Adult years have been tough for both of us. We are both empaths, but with completely opposite personalities. I am an extrovert and she is an introvert. Luckily, these past few years, having my two children around, helped us to find a common ground. We actually have a lot of common interest, it’s just that we are born in two different decades of time.

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13 thoughts on “Perfect Sisters

  1. I am the baby in the family:) I have three older brothers and I am blessed to have them. I can totally relate to what you wrote about the middle years where the age gap makes it tough to connect – My oldest brother is 10 years older. But at this stage in our life, it’s such a beautiful thing to have. Hope your relationship keeps growing.

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  2. I’m an only child and always wanted a sibling. My parents had issues having kids so they stopped after having me. When I was 5 I asked for a sibling and they said no. When I was 9 I asked them to sponsor a child in a poor country and they said they didn’t have the money for that. When I was 12 I asked them to adopt a child from a third world country and again, the answer was no. My parents never understood how I felt and how lonely it was for me growing up. It’s still lonely now but in a different way.

    My daughter is 3 and I really want a second child but my husband says now is not the time. I don’t want her being an only child like I was.

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    1. It’s not easy to have two. My mom thought having the kids one a time further apart allowed her to have a break in between. She grew up with five other siblings and always wanted her own space. But being so far apart meant she had to deal with teenagers twice in her lifetime. Not the funnest thing… especially the second time she was going through menopause…. so I remembered that.

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  3. That’s so sweet! I wonder if it’s easier for older children to adjust to a younger sibling without jealousy? I’m the elder by several years in my family and I don’t remember having many issues with my younger sibling. I also know someone who’s older son was so into his younger sister that he didn’t want to share her with mom at first!

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